Separation with a conscience and families rewoven with intention.
You’ve heard the horror stories and now you are living it. But it doesn’t have to be that way and you don’t have to do it alone. Work with me to boldly re-imagining what separation, divorce, co-parenting, re-marriage, and/or blending mean to your children, your relationships and your family.
Areas of Support
Specialized care for divorce, co-parenting and blended families.
Conscious Divorce and Co-parenting.
Because something ends, does it have to be bad? It may feel that way at first, but many couples that split get to a point where they appreciate the relationship they had and the lessons learned and continue to respect, care for and even love one another long into the future. They co-parent successfully and their children see unity and harmony and have a model for successful relationships throughout their lives. But this is hard to do without the support that helps us stay conscious in a breakup and not make mistakes we could spend our lives regretting.
Having kids together binds you together for life. Let me help you both be what they need you to be right now and in the future.
Thriving as a Single Parent.
Single parenting can be the most beautiful and hardest thing we do in our lives. All the things that were designed to be managed by a team of two people, are now completely on our shoulders. We cook, clean, attend teacher conferences, bandage wounds, work fulltime, pay bills, plan playdates, wipe away tears, counsel and so, so much more. And at the same time, we are also going through a lot personally and financially, and trying to co-parent with a willing or unwilling ex.
Single parenting will never be easy. But what comes next can be a transformative and profoundly enlightening experience with the right support. And you don’t have to figure that part out on your own. Let me offer you counseling support that gets it.
Happy, Blended Families.
Maybe your ex drops the bomb that they are introducing the person they are dating to your kids. Maybe you decide to take the leap and remarry. Maybe there is step-parenting, new children in the family, a home move, or multiple families to navigate. Each of these situations are incredibly complex and put your family into high-risk transitions. These can be destabilizing and spike all the conflict and heartache you hoped was behind you. And they can have a devastating impact on your kids. 70% of remarriages end in divorce.
Let me offer you counseling that deeply understands this complexity and helps your big, beautiful, blended family move forward and thrive.
LGBTQIA+ couples and families.
The beauty of the Queer, Trans and LGBTQIA+ community is that you get to define your life, your families, your relationships. But no one talks about how hard it is when that chosen dream ends. When queer relationships end and families fall apart. Or when blending families and kids into new relationship dynamics. Or especially when trying to co-parent across homes and families with queer, trans or homophobia in the air. It can feel devastating and isolating. There are few places out there for dedicated support for LGBTQIA+ couples and families at these junctures.
I have lived the blending of a queer family with kids and so I’ve built the support for you that I didn’t have. Let me support you and your unique family where you are at.
Hi, I’m Alex Wenzel. I help relationships heal and blended families thrive.
“When your life as you know it falls apart, it’s an incredible opportunity to wake up to your life and this world. My approach is built around the union of family systems theory with mindfulness, meditation and consciousness.”
I provide therapy for relationship endings that leave us in one piece. And therapy for next chapters built consciously. I work with couples, families and parents at the most crucial junctions of a family’s life: in the midst of separation, divorce, re-marriage, and blending families and co-parenting. When our relationships end, no one wants to live through the trauma of the legal system, personal betrayal, financial crisis, or the lasting impact on the well-being of our children as well as ourselves. But so many of us do because we don’t have the support or roadmap to do it differently.
And soon after that, we start off on our own as single parents or decide to remarry and begin blending families and step-parenting. We are soon blindsided again by the constant conflict and heartache that we had hoped was behind us. No one explains to us how incredibly hard it is to be a single parent or to try and blend our kids and families with another. We feel like a failure (again), lost, broken-hearted and alone.
It doesn’t have to be like this if we do things consciously and intentionally. Relationships can end well. Co-parents can really be partners that still love and care for their children together. New families can form that are stronger and more connected than the last.
I built the support I wish we would have had to navigate these junctions in ways that protect children and maintain the relationships and the support our families desperately need in the long run. And now I offer them to you.
